Sleep Training FAQs
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Sleep training is easier for everyone before teething and big developmental leaps begin. In a perfect world, you would begin sleep training between 10-16 weeks, but if you’ve missed that window, not a problem. We help families with babies up to 16 months successfully sleep train their babies all the time.
If you ask 10 pediatricians, you may get 10 different answers. Tribeca Pediatrics (the largest practice in NYC) strongly recommends sleep training and night weaning between 8-12 weeks. Other pediatricians are vague, or recommend sleep training between 3-5 months. Our opinion? Your baby is ready for sleep training when all caregivers are aligned; when YOU are ready to reduce to one night feed; and for your baby to sleep in his or her own room.
Nearly all our clients have “tried everything,” from following sleep training books to working with remote baby sleep consultants by phone and email. While this approach may work for some families, we know from personal experience that often the “plan” doesn’t work in the middle of the night, and it’s very challenging if we’re not observing your baby in real time. When we stay with you (now virtually due to Covid-19), we’re often tweaking our strategy minute by minute based on our observations, to help your baby learn to sleep independently in the fastest, easiest way for your baby.
The Mommywise Method was developed by Founder Natalie Nevares, over years of helping parents sleep train their babies in their homes. Our method of sleep training is focused on your baby, and includes lots of common sense, emotional and logistical support. Your baby is unique. There is no cookie-cutter “solution” that’s going to work for all babies. Books don’t know your baby, or help you make decisions in the middle of the night. They don’t help you understand if your baby is crying because she needs something, or if she’s just waking out of habit. If we work together, one of us is with you, in your home (virtually), holding your hands before, during and after your baby is sleep trained, so you’re not freaking out or worried that you’re doing something wrong. We get to know you, and your baby. We consider her age, developmental stage, personality, and the geography of your home, to help her to sleep through the night, and to nap restfully, in the fastest, easiest way for her. Will there be crying? Yes, because that is your baby’s voice, she’s learning a new skill, and she may use her voice to object to change. However, our #1 goal is to make this as as easy as possible for your baby, and minimize crying. If she needs something, we will attend to her needs. If her voice and behavior is showing us that she is just fussing because she’s tired and trying to fall asleep, we will encourage you to give her more space.
We know you don’t want your baby to cry. No parent does. But here’s the thing: If you want your baby to learn to sleep independently without excessive crying, there is no way to do this without some tears in the beginning. Your baby will use her voice to object to change. This is normal. You may have read about “no cry” or “gentle” sleep training methods, but we know that these methods generally lead to a lot MORE crying over several weeks or months, and they just don’t work. Our goal is to make it as easy as possible for your baby, and help her learn to sleep independently with as few tears as possible. Our approach works quickly and easily, and with our ongoing support afterwards, it’s sustainable. Read more on my blog, “Is CIO the Best Method?”.
If your baby is healthy and we’re with you virtually through the whole process, your baby will likely be sleep trained within a few days. Yes, we know that sounds too good to be true, but we do it all the time! Will it be perfect after 3 days? No. Even though sleep training with us is generally very fast, we include 4 weeks of unlimited support after your baby is sleep trained to ensure that you overcome any obstacles, and achieve sustainable success for years to come.
In order to know if we can help you sleep train your baby, we will need to speak on the phone. We will ask you lots of questions to be sure that we’re a good fit, and will only take you as a client if we’re 100% confident we can help you achieve your goals. We’ll tell you straight if we have any doubts. Click here to schedule your Complimentary Sleep Assessment.
Absolutely! We do this all the time and it’s really fun to see how much can change in 3-4 days.
Yes! We have several twins’ experts on our team, and can get them sleeping through the night and napping in the same room really quickly.
Here’s our promise: It will work. We will not let you fail. We will interview you very carefully to ensure we can help. If we have any doubts, we’ll tell you straight. We’re very proud and protective of our flawless 5 star reviews, and will move mountains to ensure you have the best experience working with us. Can we guarantee that your baby will sleep 12 hours from 7pm-7am every night, or that you won’t ever have to attend to your baby in the night again? Nope, unfortunately babies are human. They get sick, they get teeth, and there are infinite opportunities for setbacks. But here’s the thing – we will set you up with all the tools you need to overcome any setback. We won’t say goodbye until you feel 100% confident that you’re all set, your baby is a Master Sleeper, and that you don’t need us anymore. Even if that goes beyond the 4-week package. Bottom line, you can’t “fail” with one of us on your team. Your success and satisfaction is our #1 priority!
Honestly? Nope. We’ve read all of the sleep training books, and unfortunately, they all contradict one another. We hear from our clients that following books has led them to far too much crying, and repeated failure. Why? Because it’s impossible to be consistent if you’ve got so much contradictory noise in your head, and if you’re already sleep deprived, how can you follow a book in the middle of the night? What do you do when the “plan” doesn’t work for your baby? When you change up your strategy every night, your baby gets confused, cries harder and longer, and probably give up at 3am. Feel free to read all the sleep training books, but we’re fairly certain that you and your baby will be more confused than when you started!
Four months is a natural, normal developmental stage when newborns grow into more wakeful babies who are more alert and aware of their surroundings. In other words, it is a developmental leap. Nearly every family who contacts us says that their baby was sleeping really well between 8-12 weeks (sometimes in 6-8 hours stretches), but then it all fell apart between 12-16 weeks. If a baby hasn’t learned to self-soothe by 4-months, they will become harder to put down, night wakings will increase, and naps will shorten. This is the 4-month “sleep regression,” which is developmentally normal for a baby who hasn’t learned to sleep independently. But here’s the thing – Sleep trained babies don’t experience a 4-month sleep regression! If we sleep train your baby before 16 weeks, they’ll sleep right through it. After your Sleep Training Program, you will know how to guide your baby through any other developmental leaps!
Yes! We will set you up for success by sleep training your baby during a period when you’ll be at home, and then give you all the tools you need to make traveling a breeze from then on. If you’re traveling during the month you’re working with us, we will guide you before, during and after your travels, so your baby will be a great sleeper, regardless of where she or he sleeps!
You bet. Many of the families we work with have two homes, and travel on weekends and holidays. After we help you sleep train your baby in your primary home, there will be no problem transitioning from one home to another.
Working with toddlers is far more complex than sleep training a baby, but we know all the tricks, and have great success helping toddlers learn to love sleeping in their “big kid” beds. We will tailor a plan that works for your child’s personality, developmental stage, and what hasn’t been working for you. The only thing we won’t do to help your toddler sleep is recommend using a gate!
We help families sleep train babies starting as early as 10 weeks old. The majority of the babies we work with are between 3-10 months old, but we work with babies up to 16 months, and toddlers up until 3.5 years old.
To former clients we already know, yes; otherwise, no. We know from years of first-hand experience that a one-off phone call isn’t often very helpful. Advice without followup support isn’t going to help you resolve months of unhealthy sleep habits, and it certainly doesn’t help you in the middle of the night when your baby is crying and you don’t know what to do. We observe your baby in real time throughout the entire sleep training process in order to make it as fast and easy as possible for your baby.
*Due to Covid-19, we are offering Complimentary Phone Consults to all our former clients. If you’re a former client and struggling with isolation, click here to schedule your call.
Full payment is due in order to confirm your Sleep Training Program. Payments may be made by ACH transfer, Visa, MasterCard, or American Express. If you have a Flexible Spending Account (FSA) or Health Savings Accounts (HSA), then our Sleep Training Programs are often 100% reimbursable. Contact your administrator to confirm. Services are non-transferrable, and no refunds are offered for unused services.
Unfortunately, no. However, if you have a Flexible Spending Account (FSA) or Health Savings Accounts (HSA), then our Sleep Training Programs are often 100% reimbursable. Contact your administrator to confirm.
Yes! If you have a Flexible Spending Account (FSA) or Health Savings Accounts (HSA), then our Sleep Training Programs are often 100% reimbursable. Contact your administrator to confirm what paperwork is required for reimbursement.